Nov 25

Written by: Bill McElree
Thursday, November 25, 2010 2:18:33 AM 

Being a wedding DJ in Sudbury has some amazing advantages. It's a small enough town that I can get to know my clients. It's not just a contract about music, lights and times. The pace is different so there is time to ask questions and ask the next question. And there is the key to a great wedding:the next question.

Katie and Adam are one of the most emotionally connected couples I have ever met. They smile and laugh in unison and are equally liable to break into tears during a sentimental moment. To hang out with this couple is to be reminded what being in love is all about. And I never would have figured out the depth of their relationship had I not asked enough questions.

Now, they are not the most outwardly expressive people I have ever met. On the surface they are perfectly normal and self-controlled. They approached me looking for a DJ. Someone to play a nice variety of music, not too loud and with an ear to requests. All in all they thought the best they could hope for was a competently professional average evening. They thought they wanted just a DJ. But I am not just a DJ. In fact I turn those events down. If a couple wants just a good party ( a feat I am certainly capable of) they are usually surprised when I pass on the reception. But then I asked them was why they were celebrating.

Over the next hour and a half of our first meeting I learned that they were soul mates and they really wanted their reception to reflect that it was celebration of a love between two people. They had met briefly years before and their connection was instant. It was only one day but they knew that they had both been changed. But they were dating other people and had to honour those relationships. It wasn't until six years later did she find out that he had fallen in love with her after that first meeting and that he was still in love with her. Three weeks after that second meeting he asked her to marry him. And I get the privilege of bringing that out during their reception.

Speeches are going to be tough especially because he is just as emotional as she so we designed that into the order so they would have recovery time. Their first dances are ordered in such a way that it will look like we married them again and their will become surprises both for the bridal party and the guests that will make their day unique and memorable. And the entire flow and tempo of the evening has been ordered to match who they are as a couple. I simply cannot wait!

And all this was because I asked more questions. Because the why is more important than the what these two amazing people are going to do a lot more than have a great party. They are going to celebrate.